Yesterday was a dear friends very important birthday. She crossed over from the leisurely, wandering twenties to the shock of being 30.
When I called to say happy birthday – and to ensure her that being 30 actually rocks (considering I’ve been here for quite a few months!) – she sounded very down. We talked for a while and she is very introspective about this milestone in her life. She feels that now that she is 30 she must now take stock of what she did during her 20’s and re-access what she wants to accomplish for her 30’s. It’s almost as if she feels some standard of accomplishment that she didn’t achieve by 30, and now must make sure that she doesn’t waste her 30’s but has something to show for them. I tried to remind her that she has 4 adorable children who are well-behaved, smart, athletic, obedient and loving. In my mind, that’s a pretty huge accomplishment. That’s way more than I ever had to show for my 20’s!
After some philosophical conversation about aging and living and being the best person we can be, we decided that our 30’s need to count for something – putting priorities on families and friends – things that matter to eternity. We declared our motto for our 30’s “Make It Count.”
I like it. We hope to live more purposeful lives. Lives that count. Making memories. Laughing more. Stopping to enjoy the everyday things that make us smile.